To Meddle with a marriage sounds bad I mean really bad doesn’t it?
I just want to touch on a subject that can be a little awkward and for very obvious reasons, I mean marriage is sacred entity isn’t?
I recently saw this subject being debated in a local forum about marriage so I thought I would raise it here.
It concerns the subject of Infidelity! Where a person is in love with a married person and the
love is reciprocated, meaning that the married person loves our mystery lover.
The thing is though, the married man/woman doesn’t want to throw away the marriage so the
question is what should happen? It is all too common where a single person falls for a married
guy or woman and they end up getting trapped in a position where the married person doesn’t
want to lose them and they don’t want to lose their long term relationship and probably their family and kids. It doesn’t seem fair does it? It’s as though the married person wants it all their way, talk about having their cake and eating it. Such relations are never going to end well.
First of all, lets take the position of the married one, he or she will be having twice the cost
of duel commitments at home and away, plus they are struggling with the fact that they are
hiding their extra marital activities from their families. So you have to ask, what would be
the point of a marriage like that? a complete lie!
I mean for me, just the thought of cheating on my spouse would kill all the romance.
So even if the married partner can afford these ongoing dual commitments with arousing
suspicion, its got to be horrendous.
Personally I think that their is only one solution here; I would be inclined to come clean,
tell your spouse everything, tell them how you feel, then leave it for them to decide what
should happen. But don’t be surprised if they throw you out, after all that would be a natural
reaction for most of us.
Then we have the unmarried party, they should stop what they are doing immediately, that is
unless the married person is already heading out of the relationship. If they are then great
no problem and good luck to you, however if not then you will have to live with the fact that
you are cheating or splitting up a. Such relationships can be heart breaking and need tremendous understanding. No one likes the idea of sharing their spouses with a third party, not even in this day and age.
Love and relationships can be complicated and are not easy to live with. Our emotions and
feelings can bring us tremendous pain, especially where kids are involved. So my rule is keep
it simple, don’t cheat and don’t be the one to break up a strong partnership.