To Meddle with a marriage sounds bad I mean really bad doesn’t it?
I just want to touch on a subject that can be a little awkward and for very obvious reasons, I mean marriage is sacred entity isn’t?
I recently saw this subject being debated in a local forum about marriage so I thought I would raise it here.
It concerns the subject of Infidelity! Where a person is in love with a married person and the
love is reciprocated, meaning that the married person loves our mystery lover.
The thing is though, the married man/woman doesn’t want to throw away the marriage so the
question is what should happen? It is all too common where a single person falls for a married
guy or woman and they end up getting trapped in a position where the married person doesn’t
want to lose them and they don’t want to lose their long term relationship and probably their family and kids. It doesn’t seem fair does it? It’s as though the married person wants it all their way, talk about having their cake and eating it. Such relations are never going to end well.
First of all, lets take the position of the married one, he or she will be having twice the cost
of duel commitments at home and away, plus they are struggling with the fact that they are
hiding their extra marital activities from their families. So you have to ask, what would be
the point of a marriage like that? a complete lie!
I mean for me, just the thought of cheating on my spouse would kill all the romance.
So even if the married partner can afford these ongoing dual commitments with arousing
suspicion, its got to be horrendous.
Personally I think that their is only one solution here; I would be inclined to come clean,
tell your spouse everything, tell them how you feel, then leave it for them to decide what
should happen. But don’t be surprised if they throw you out, after all that would be a natural
reaction for most of us.
Then we have the unmarried party, they should stop what they are doing immediately, that is
unless the married person is already heading out of the relationship. If they are then great
no problem and good luck to you, however if not then you will have to live with the fact that
you are cheating or splitting up a. Such relationships can be heart breaking and need tremendous understanding. No one likes the idea of sharing their spouses with a third party, not even in this day and age.
Love and relationships can be complicated and are not easy to live with. Our emotions and
feelings can bring us tremendous pain, especially where kids are involved. So my rule is keep
it simple, don’t cheat and don’t be the one to break up a strong partnership.
Is The Mans View of Online Dating Sites Different to Womens?
Generally people have taken to online dating like a duck takes to water.
This is because it usually works or, at least, it can if people keep within the rules.
Although some people are serious with regards to finding a long term partner, others are in for a totally different reason, short term one night stands and will manipulate the situation from start to finish. It has been said that Men and even Women usually lie about everything from their height and looks, their build and even their marital status. Some guys just want to have a bit on the side and it doesn’t matter to them if they are married or not. These guys will often have more than one partner on the go at the same time and are often compared to sharks and some are not concerned who they hurt in this so called game they are playing.
Women are concerned when considering using the online dating sites they are terrified of meeting a man that she has been chatting with online. They may have been out of a relationship for a while and are feeling nervous about getting back into the dating game. The will have heard about are the scary things that can happen and, Yes, they have a right to be careful to the extreme. That’s not only wise but vital. I would always suggest that the two partners should speak on the phone initially in order to get a feel for the type of guy they are dealing with. Then when it comes to meeting up, maybe consider a friend to hang around nearby just in case anything goes wrong and alway, always meet in public for the first few times.
So what’s a nice guy to do? You know that you aren’t a pervert, a sexual predator, or a weirdo. You’re just a nice decent guy looking for “the” girl for you. You are well aware that women may well be scared of you but you cannot be put off by that thought.
You must be patient. Don’t press her for personal information like her real name or where she lives. Keep your conversations light and fun until she feels comfortable talking with you online. Don’t try to rush her into meeting face-to-face. She will think you are desperate or a pervert. You must be Patient. Remember Patience. Patience.
When it comes to writing your profile page, be absolutely honest about everything, your physical appearance, your circumstances as well as the usuall interests and hobbies. A good relationship can never be, built on lies or deceit. Eventually she will find out the truth anyway and then you are back to the begining of The Love Maze.
A picture really is worth a thousand words. You could even go to a professional photographer and have a great photo for your profile peage. Then you could alway add other photos of you doing what you normally do. This way your prospective partner will get a good insight into who you really are. You must have heard the saying “A picture paints a thousand words”
Once the discussion has begun and you are comfortable maybe consider a chat on skype or even the normal telephone. Then if things are going well, consider arranging a meeting. Make the first one could be somewhere neutral, suggest that you meet in a very public place, during daylight hours and that she could bring a friend with her if she would feel happier that way, make her feel safe and reassured. After all, you have nothing to hide. You’ve told her the truth about yourself and she has already seen a lot of pictures of you. The only thing left is to make her feel safe meeting you and let fate take over.
Creating Your Online Dating Profile Is Essential
Have you ever heard the expression ” You never get a second chance to make a good impression”? Ok then, is also applies to your online dating.
Well it’s true, so not only is it essential that you create a profile of yourself, it is your only chance to create your profile so it must be good, truthful and honest but able to grab the attention of the type of fella that you are aiming for.
It may be that you have tried some of the dating sites and you have been unsuccessful and disappointed but most of all you have felt let down. But you must at some point get back on the horse or remain on your own forever until Mr right comes knocking at your door which is probably unlikely. The only other option is to start clubbing again and put up with the drunks looking for a cheap one night stand which makes you feel desperate and depressed.
So you have decided to give it one last shot at online dating because all your friends are in relationships and you are understandably fed up of being alone. So having made the decision, you are positive that this time the outcome will be different and you have decided to up your game and create a fantastic online dating to begin with.
The big difference when compared to the last profile will be that this profile will attract attention and reel in the man of your dreams. But as writing your own profile you are going to enlist a little help because writing isn’t one of your best points, so you have checked out a couple of how to articles and you enlist the help of a friend to help you write the all important profile.
The first thing is to be honest and try not to embellish features about yourself while at the same time focus on your best features, this is where writing your profile with a friend or two can make all the difference because quite often other people pick up on features about you that you may gloss over and think as not being important. Begin by examining past relationships and list the things that you liked and the things you didn’t. If you love dogs or cats and will always want to own one or two, state that you are an animal lover and would always wish to have one or two around.
Accent the things that make you unique, picking out the better features of your character and make it shine without going overboard. If you love art, you really don’t want a man who thinks Picasso is the flavor of ice cream.
Pick out the things that are vital in your life, because if you fail to do this you may be attracting someone with whom you will have nothing in common. If you enjoy keeping fit and you love to be outdoors,camping and hiking etc put it in because ideally you want a fella with the same kind of interests as you so that you can spend time doing these things and really get to know them. So put in anything that you are passionate about otherwise you are making a mistake that could cost you dearly.
You must ensure that you attract the men who share your interests and values, it is not just about the superficial things like looks, although having said that make the most of your better features by investing in the services of a professional photographer for your online photograph. This is essential, The photo is the FIRST thing anyone will get to see so you must stand out and a professional will give you the best chance at creating an impression. Secondly comes your initial write-up, this is like an introduction where you create a small profile and quickly list your likes and wants before they go deeper into your full write-up, so this is another “must get right” section.
Then you will be creating your complete profile including likes and dislikes, again be honest tell them everything that you are looking for, but don’t go too far, like saying that you never ever want to have a family because this would put off a lot of guys and besides this is something that would come naturally over time where you can both discuss this issue which may bring out totally opposite feelings with the right partnership. But don’t try to create a person that cannot possibly exist because this is likely to lead to another disappointment. Try to cast you net a little wider initially then you can begin to whittle down your list at your pleasure.
Doing this with your friends could be great fun, they will also be pleased to help you and they will no doubt enjoy matchmaking for you, so make sure they are kept up to date with what’s happening with your online dating ventures.
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